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From
an article in the New York Times 11/12/92 entitled: Study Cites Role of
Biological and Genetic Factors in Violence: A new approach is needed to open
''a pathway out of the current stalemate between the right and the left about
crime,'' Professor Moore said. [Mark H. professor of criminal justice policy
at Harvard University]. ''The right is saying, All we need are more prisons
and police," he said. ''The left says, That is a stupid waste of
money. What we really need is to abolish poverty and racial discrimination.''
The report, he said, ''seeks a new middle ground.'' My proposed
workshop on Frustration Intolerance and The Substance Abuser
aims to both identify ''a new middle ground and to provide a cost effective
program in working with addicts.'' The Problem: �
substance abuse All of these
indicators of disruptive anti-social behavior may be regarded as symptoms of an
underlying psychological disorder: namely impulsivity expressed in the form of
an incohesive self. Definition: Causes: The
preconditions for the formation of a cohesive self is the capacity to bear
increasing dosages of frustration and other so called negative affects and to be
able to make and enforce appropriate self and ego boundaries. Examples of these
boundaries are: (l)
Content Boundaries: Making distinctions between and among feelings, thoughts,
judgements/actions; Process: Aims: Stimulate the
abuser in becoming increasingly more curious and interested in his psychology by
introducing him to the facts of his interior reality and complexity (like taking
off the cover of a complicated watch to see what makes it tick). Fill in the 0 in
the formula S 0 R where S = stimulus; 0 = self; and R = response. Describe and
illustrate representative problems that occur when one is missing a cohesive
self. The lack of a self-structure is equivalent to a person having a
frustration allergy that is the inability to gracefully accept and tolerate
inevitable frustration. This means that when the person is frustrated-
indicating they are disappointed because of a missed expectation - they will try
to ward off the frustration rather than to use it as a jumping off point to
generate a creative solution to solve an undeniable personal problem. Normal
Frustration: When normal
frustration is denied, or reacted to with anger turned in on the self it results
in the reality of the self as well as external reality to be perceived as
fragmented, discontinuous, estranged, and randomly held together. When
frustration is accepted as inevitable, the reality of the self and external
reality is perceived as united, having continuity, contiguity and causality. An
Application of these ideas: Note: Up to this
point M has experienced frustration as a weakness hence his feeling out
of control. He has tended to become angry and depressed at himself when
frustrated habitually turning to drugs for solace. But his drug tasking which
used to work for him is instead now perceived as an even greater weakness than
the frustration that has motivated him to use it. This session
began with a dream: I move back into
a tiny apartment with bare walls. I don't want to go back to this. {He is
referring to his cocaine life style which he is presently considering to be a
waste of his time and money}Note: At this point in his treatment his increasing
displeasure of his cocaine life style is gaining in ascendancy with his habitual
temptation to flirt with it). Trigger for his
conflict. {Explaining what has happened in the present which has motivated him
to even consider returning to coke}. M
states that he received an unexpected $7000.00 tax bill experiencing it as a big
blow. He was aware that in the past he would have predictably reacted by
instantly snorting coke. Cocaine would have had the effect of blanking out
unwanted intolerable "negative" feelings of inadequacy and failure
expressed as " no matter what I do it is never enough." Not enough = a
negative self-evaluation of insufficiency and inadequacy. It was as if he was
feeling that the world/ /external reality is too big and that he is by
comparison too small and insubstantial to effectively handle his problems. (Note: His self
concept was previously based on an ego ideal of the myth of perfect God-like
control -omniscient and omnipotent - an ideal which was mostly unconscious. This
impossible expectation was sorely tested by the brute reality of the tax bill,
he initially felt to be overwhelming. In self-esteem deregulation a missed
expectation experienced as a disappointment (frustration) leads to anger turned
in on the self. This confluence of feelings combines with additional feelings of
empty insubstantiality, weakness and negative moral indictments of shame, guilt,
helplessness, hopelessness, and fears of actual and or imagined psychological
and sometimes physical collapse. The resulting negative self concept and lack of
empowerment is further experienced as despicable adding even more fuel to the
already destructive fire of ever diminishing self -esteem. Problems of
Affect Intolerance and Fluid Boundaries:
His central
psychological problem has been an inability to effectively regulate his self
-esteem. Thus when beset by unexpected pressures (experienced as blows) he has
tended to personalize them punitively judging his initial reaction of inadequacy
as abnormal hence debasing. In short, he is overwhelmed by feeling overwhelmed.
In other terms he is frustrated feeling normal frustration judging it to be a
measure of how ineffectual and imperfect he is rather than as something that is
normal having to be creatively coped with. Initially this unacceptable self-
concept and self -feeling was associated with fears of unconsciously wished for
but consciously dreaded fantasies and feelings of frustrated needs for love,
abandonment, collapse and rescue. Note that
initially M was unaware (unconscious) of his first assumption that
frustration should never occur and that if it did he should be able to instantly
and permanently rid himself of its unpleasantness. In its place was an illusory
fantasy of absolute control taking the form of an ego idea of complete
self-sufficiency. Thus when he was unable to meet this impossible expectation of
discounting the inevitability of realistic limits and limitations he was
initially ashamed of his inability to be in control. Intervention: Systematic
attention to the implementing the tasks outlined under Aims. This therapeutic
focus on promoting affect tolerance and recognizing the need to make and then to
implement making appropriate self and ego boundaries led to an increasing
capacity to regulate his self-esteem. This in turn led M to feel
increasingly more empowered expressed as his experiencing himself as
increasingly more secure, confident and in middle level control. {Middle level
control refers to the idea of appropriate realistic control as contrasted with
hyper illusory control associated with grandiose fantasies of omniscience and
omnipotence on the one side versus hypo control associated with fantasies of
total inadequacy and ineffectualness on the other.} M's
Confirmation of the Power of Connecting with and Utilizing Core Concepts
In the next
session M responded to the above with another dream: My father is 20
- feet tall. I'm a child but it is me now. My father is leaving. I have a
concave feeling like I want to cry. I do cry and feel as though I'm coming
apart. As my eyes are closed, I know that when I open them he won't be there. I
open my eyes and see that my father has gone. I feel lost M
associated that this is what he actually felt in the past many times - but
instead of crying he would tough it out denying that he felt anything - thereby
avoiding a connection with his real and imagined fears of being afraid, lost and
confused. To be noted: is his subsequent cover up of his wish for love converted
into an illusory ideal of pseudo self sufficiency that was defensive protecting
him from directly experiencing overwhelming pain associated with frustrated
needs for parental love. Thus no guidance was provided teaching him how to
tolerate the inevitability of negative experiences summarized as frustration.
Nor was he taught how to make necessary ego and self- boundaries with respect to
space, time and contents of consciousness. Thus,
when feeling initially overwhelmed by an unexpected blow/pressure such as the
surprise tax bill, he initially identified himself as the collective negative
feelings instead of distancing himself from them with the knowledge that his
self is more than the temporary negative feelings of the moment. This is the
typical experience of the addict who at such times when he feels over whelmed by
frustration often states that he has lost himself - that he feels out of it. The
intervention that the self is more than the feelings of the moment is the
equivalent of making a self-boundary, encouraging the person to absorb rather
than to fight his painful but inevitable disappointments. Such interventions
help the abuser utilize his rationality to aid himself in constructing a solid
cohesive self. Gibbs A. Williams, Ph.D. � 1999-2000 Visit the author's website at http://www.gibbsonline.com |
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